It's also far less intimate and attractive to use a group shot - always remember that the person viewing your profile will be trying to imagine themselves with you. It's the online equivalent of bringing your mates along on a first date.
Because people viewing your profile will be hoping to get a sense of your lifestyle - and how they can fit into it.
I think it also shows that they're actually thinking about what women may want to hear and putting a real effort into their profile.
"Why do guys take pictures of themselves from the vantage point of their penis? Homie either bald, got a bald spot, or hairline so recessed he should just be bald already. As a fat chick, I wouldn't be able to pull that shit, the fact that you think you can puts me right off."24. "If I'm expected to look like some kind of hot trophy MILF then you better not be wearing old jeans and a Metallica shirt. It would be quite the courtesy if you would want to watch me on Skype but I know that's not for everyone.
No one in the history of ever looks cute in a picture taken from below their chin. Holding a dead animal you have shot and killed does not make you more of a man."23. If you're a bigger guy and you've got a little (or a lot) of extra padding around the middle, that's fine. No need to get naked or anything, I just get lonely and it's nice having another person around.
'I'd much rather see a picture of a nice smiling guy on a night out with friends or on holiday than one who has clearly spent too much time in front of a mirror in his bedroom.
Have some selfie respect.'The new research by dating site Zoosk comes to the conclusion that while honesty really is the best policy for men, it's not such a good idea for women to talk about exes and children.
) Because I did receive so many wonderful responses, I've decided to give you twice the amount of replies as I did with the men's grievances, which is a total of 30 pieces of deliciously harsh advice. (This sounds so shitty and shallow, but that's sort of the name of the game with online dating.) Dear not-super-hot guys, you make hot girls feel really bad when you send us messages about how we 'probably won't write you back, because of physical reasons X, Y and Z, but you thought you would try anyway.' No one is attracted to this type of self-consciousness in real life, so when you broadcast it online, it's literally all we are going to see. It screams, ' I looked through your pics, and I figured I'd contact you. Try looking a little less serial killer if possible. What's up with men and their angry/surly expression in EVERY pic? If you're wearing sunglasses in every picture, I'm going to pass."11. (I swear to god this is never wrong unless they're over 6'4" (actually 6'4")." 14. "Details of your extreme Cross Fit (Beachbody, whale bench pressing) workout/lifestyle and your protein intake are all the worst. You only get to the talking in person part by getting someone interested in you, which you do by writing a description. It's super confusing why you'd take the time to write me a specific message when we're horribly matched and all of the answers to your questions make me sad."17. "Male Tinder profiles with the whole 'we all know what this is for/this isn't e Harmony' bullshit is kind of enraging. If you're not in college anymore, act like it. It is the vaguest fucking question that implies you might want to hang out, but doesn't implicitly say that. Plus if I say I am only looking for something casual, and I meet you, I don't get to change my answer.
So you're a little pudgy or balding but you want to take me on a date? I'll also be sending a similar message to 20-30 more girls within the next half hour. I'm not a gold digger, but I'm not a sugar mama, either, dude. First of all, I'd like to fantasize about the awesome bod, not know your waxing schedule. You can use the app for whatever the hell you please, but generalizing the whole thing says a lot about your entitlement. "Why do you ask me ' What are you getting into tonight? And if I am looking for a relationship, what if I meet you, and you are dumb but pretty enough to bed? "Really I think it's abhorrent to use any photos of kids on there. "One dude I was talking to asked me for pics EVERY TIME WE TALKED. I've seen more bits of men in the last few years from men on these sites than I have in my entire life." 30.
Then say something that will make me want to date you."4. "Selfies in your bathroom scream, ' No friends.' I find it really hard to respect a man making the 'duck face' in a picture he took of himself. Being lit by the bluish glow of your laptop in a darkened room from a slight upwards angle is not a good look. "I can understand not wanting a woman who wants/expects to be taken care of but at the same time I think it's as gross to say shit like you'll only date me if I make the same income bracket as you do. Secondly, those shakers are disgusting and hard to clean. I don't like setting parameters on a person I haven't met yet. Also, if it's casual sex, I still need an almost date! It's a dating site; your children's faces should not be available for just anyone to screenshot and view. I always put a lot of pictures on my profile -- some close up and full body pics. Make a move already -- er, as long as you're not a psycho.
Maybe I live within my means and work my passion instead of seeking money and power."12. "If you are 40-ish and are posting pics of you in the military from when you were fresh out of high school or several pounds ago and you've lost or gained pounds or hair since, I'll figure out the difference. They are children, not trophies, no matter how cute and loving you think it looks. I humored him and sent more pics the first few times. "If I see one more profile that says the guy likes the 'finer things in life and romantic dinners' I will vomit."28. "Also, don't send one-line emails and expect me to do a lot of work on my end, like answer that message. "When you ask me how my day is going, it makes me want to punch you in the face. Don't expect me to give you my phone number or meet you right away. Then again, please don't contact me if you are crazy.
I wish I could have included every single reply (shout-out to the lady who received a message from a man on OKCupid saying, "I me you marriage sexy kin do ok now please horn yes? All of these responses are anonymous, a few have been combined for the sake of readability and reducing repetition. Please stop telling me that kissing is the second best thing you do with your tongue. "If I don't want to write you back, for whatever personal reason I have for doing so, that's okay. Just because you express interest in me does not mean I owe you anything in return. "Don't call me 'babe' or 'bae' or 'sweetie' or any other such things in our first conversation. "I think men get caught up in wanting to show they're adventurous. ' is a super annoying and unanswerable question.
(And I've got an LGBT writer working on an article from that perspective as well! Because you've 'been told by more than one woman.' All guys tell me this and we'd all rather you show us than tell us. Also, don't expect a blow job because you buried your face in my crotch."3. "If you want to step out of that league, do it with some game. Cutting remarks/insults sent to someone you've never met aren't 'jokes' or 'just being playful.' But they do make you look like an insecure asshole."6. "Do not initially contact me with: 'hey,' 'what's up,' or 'how r u.' I don't care if you're the hottest, smartest, most successful man, I will not reply to a message that took the least amount of humanly effort possible. It's condescending and makes me feel like a hunk of female meat and not an individual. Please don't ask women of color to 'fulfill (your) fantasy.'"9. Ski masks, sunglasses, far away hiking/climbing/surfing pics. They could be attractive but I end up having no idea. "Please don't say, ' It's so much better to talk about this in person.' I agree it's easier to talk about things in person than to write a detailed description of your personality, but this is an online dating site. On any given day I am looking for someone to bang, or marry, or date.
I'm sorry, Steven Now, please, please tell me what is enraging or brilliant on this list. What did I not have enough of or totally fail to address?