Unfortunately it doesn’t always work out as the boy wasn’t interested in me.
Unlike Japan, California is a true melting pot of cultures but since I had so little dating experience back home, I was nervous about getting into the dating scene in America.
Mostly because I had no idea how the American dating culture worked.
But another interesting trend is happening with Japanese online daters.
The culture is rather conservative when it comes to dating – and guys don’t want to be thought of as players. Most Japanese singles are much more focused on work, which means working long hours and delaying starting a family. A 2014 survey by the Japan Family Planning Association found that 49% of all respondents had not had sex in the past month, and 18% of men said they had no interest in sex at all.
Anyways, these are the things that I have learned from dating men in America and these are very uniquely different experiences. Quite frankly I don’t think either of them is very effective.
The thing that I like about typical Japanese dating custom is that “kokuhaku” (confession) makes the start of relationships more simplified.
One thing that is very different in Japan is that it is not uncommon for a woman to ask a man out.
I have to confess that I had a crush on a boy in junior high and my friends forced me to do the kokuhaku ritual.
It’s easy to see why Japanese singles are skeptical.
But now dating apps have made things a little easier to verify.
I did the online dating many years ago and a couple of men say that it was getting too expensive for them to ask women out because even if you meet them just for a coffee, it quickly adds up.