Better fitting clothes and a new, more flattering hairstyle can work wonders.
Improving your body language and posture by adopting more confident attitudes can make you seem like a new person. If you have facial hair, shave it off or adopt a style that works better with your face – not every style works well for every sort of face.
If you go in expecting a fairy tale ending with cartoon cherubs and singing woodland animals and find out that your “love” for her was predicated on the fact that she was forever out of your reach; now that you actually manage to escape the Friend Zone, all you’re doing is setting yourself up for an even greater heartbreak.
Just keep in mind: the longer you’ve known your crush – and the closer you are with them – the harder it can be to shake that mental image of you. I covered this some last time, but it’s worth reiterating: if you want to get out of the Friend Zone, you can’t keep acting like a friend.
You need to be willing to treat her more like someone you’re .
The last thing you need is to find out that you don’t want the same things and wind up hurting each other.
The trope of “suddenly sexy” is a long-standing cliche in fiction, especially romantic comedies; one moment it’s your old childhood pal who’s like a brother/sister too you and then all the sudden there’s a slight change and then you can’t get them out of your head.
The idea of guys crossing from “Just Friends” to “Boyfriend” is almost exclusively the domain of bad romantic comedies. In the former, you’ve been given a more socially acceptable “thanks but no thanks” from someone who isn’t interested in you. well, you’re not really in the Friend Zone because you’re not really their friend. If you’ve found yourself in this zone, then the odds are good that you haven’t been friends for terribly long; weeks rather than months or months rather than years.
People who have actually made the leap are like the Loch Ness Monster – everybody’s heard of it, almost nobody’s seen it and everyone’s pretty sure the people who say they The fact of the matter is, I was one of those people who would willingly put himself into The Friend Zone because I was too chicken to make a move and would rather rely on the Platonic Friend Back Door Gambit to try to weasel my way in rather than risk rejection and make a move. I’ve detailed the various forms that The Friend Zone takes, from the LJBF polite rejection to the genuine friendship, and it’s critical to know where you stand. You have far less emotional inertia to overcome and her((For the sake of convenience, I’m going to be using the feminine pronoun – the Friend Zone is predominately something that guys inflict on themselves- but my advice applies equally for men and women.)) mental image of you is going to be considerably less entrenched than if the two of you have been friends for years.
It’s human nature to chase after things that are “safe” – things that we can’t have for one reason or another.
It gives us an object and outlet for our emotions and provides a handy excuse to not pursue something that might – gasp, shock – actually have consequences.
If you’re especially close – hanging out more than once per week – , it’s even If you’re going to get out of The Friend Zone, you’re going to have shake up how she sees you.