One can also seek the help of the Imam of the Islamic Center where the girl’s father goes, to talk with him about this, and always pray earnestly to Allah to help realize the dream if it’s good.But we have to emphasize that it is not lawful to compel a girl to marry someone she does not want.
This is because people are blinded by the physical attraction and thus do not choose the compatible partner.
The girl’s refusal to marry a person who has asked her hand in marriage, we suggest that, if such thing happens, the person in question can make efforts and seek all permissible ways to persuade the father or the guardian of the girl to give her in marriage to him.
Salatul Istakharah (the prayer for letting Allah to choose for you), is the most important and most effective way to find what will make you the happiest and give you the best partner for your life here and in the Hereafter.
Dating a Muslim is generally just like dating anyone else a varied and unpredictable experience that can vary widely depending on the guy's individual personality.
The unrealistic expectation that young people have is what often contributes to the failure of their relationship.
After being "involved" with a person for a time, and then breakiing up and going through the feelings of remorse or loneliness and unhappiness, and then moving on to the next "relationship" and then another break-up, hard feelings, sadness and then yet another series of dating, hanging out, breaking up and so on." prior to marriage, falling in love, arguing, breaking up and then going through the sad feelings and repeating this over and over, are much more likely to end up in a very rough marriage and very possible divorce.All this should be discussed with your partner before the relationship progresses past a certain point.Forget Stereotypes The first thing to do is to drop any preconceived notions you have of Muslims.This involves knowing first of all, your own child and second of all to know about the potential spouse, and also very important - to know the family and their ways, before recommending marriage.There is an Arabic proverb that says: "Love is blind, it makes zucchini turn into okra".May Allah help you to do what He loves and what pleases Him!