I think that is the sort of thing we all hope for as parents, on both sides–to hear your child is kind or to hear that your child expect kindness.
I am curious about all the other parents of teenagers, soon-to-be-teens, survived-the-teen-years think?
In a few years they will be in high school and you will not be privy to much of the inner workings of their social lives.
How have you handled the idea of dating in your home? Is there an appropriate age carved in stone at your house?
*Before middle school “dating” is basically telling everyone that you are “going out” and then consistently ignoring the other person to the point that no one would ever believe you two even know each other, let alone are boyfriend and girlfriend.
ALLTHE POPULER BOYS LIKE ME AND MY FRIENDS BECAUSE WE ARE CUTE AND FUNNY!! there is this kid in my class let's say his name is jake but he is so nice so fricken hot and smart. And as i was saying he is in another class i only see him during recess. We weren't really friends, but this year, I wrote him a note that asked to be his friend. Then, a few days ago, I tried to grab a tennis ball from him, but as I did it, his hand lightly pulled on mine, and we looked at each other, blushing. So here's my story: I'm in 6th grade and there's this guy I like let's just say his name is Tom.
(And I'm still in the beginning of the school year) I'm in 5th grade and I'm too shy. He was one of the new kids who are most connected to their own gender.
Since you have a houseful of kids, I am wondering how you deal with this. “Mean Mom” Back when all of my children were small I always said that they could date once they were ready to get married. Based on my own life experiences I couldn’t see how it possibly could be a good thing. As they have grown I have realized that there is no protecting children from being hurt. Once they can drive they will be off going places and you probably won’t know where half the time.
And that there are valuable lessons to be learned in all of our relationships, romantic and otherwise. You may be surprised by what your 13, 14, or 15 yr old considers . 4) They are still willing to listen to what you have to say.And like so many other things that I was so certain about, I changed my mind. To my ancient mind, the term dating conjures up images of unsupervised alone time. I know that many people think this is a horrible reason to allow your kids to do anything. The key is finding the way to say it so they will listen.My young teen boys are perfectly happy having their “girlfriend” come over to the house and have dinner with the family and then watch movies or play games in the family room with the entire family. Except that in this instance, I have seen time and time again parents who refuse to allow their kids to date and kids who lie, sneak around and do it anyway. One of my sons briefly had a girlfriend that was always angry at him for something.Maybe you think your kids won’t lie to you, or disobey you, or sneak around and doing things behind your back, but I have been parenting long enough to know that they will. He never quite seemed to understand what he was doing wrong.To my credit, I didn’t once say, “Dump that drama queen! Not just in boyfriend/girlfriend situations, but in all friendships.I pretty much ignore all references to girlfriends and boyfriends at that age and I absolutely do not encourage it.