And the right frame of mind determines how you live your life with an ostomy. Well, it’s a surgical opening in the abdomen where the intestine (large or small) is brought up through the abdominal wall.
I guess they figure it’s the lauded female ejaculation, and I’ve learned to suppress my urge to freak out or get all depressed when it happens.
I usually have sex on a towel to be safe, but if there isn’t a towel handy, I can always spray the spot with vinegar to sterilize and deodorize the area.
Like I said, one of my first questions once I decided to go through with the surgery was, “how is this going to affect my sex life?
” Thankfully I had a surgeon who this wasn’t his first go-round and he knew it was probably a question I had so he brought it up without making me have to. Sex has always been a little difficult for me, as I’m sure it is for many people living with Crohn’s disease or ulcerative colitis.
In all likelihood, it’s passing gas into the medical bag I wear to cover it.
Also I have a neurogenic bladder –- that means I can’t feel my bladder at all.I’m like a cat or a newborn baby: I spray any time, any place.I invest in incontinence companies and suggest new pads to my 89-year-old grandmother and her friends.Right after my surgery, I was scared that I would no longer feel sexy and that my husband wouldn’t look at me the same way. It wasn’t immediate, but once I knew how much better I was feeling and got used to the idea of having an ostomy and a bag, I felt even sexier.I wasn’t worried about what might happen during sex and I was free to enjoy it the way you’re supposed to.So I was nervous giving it another go after my surgery. ( I did have a completely laparoscopic surgery, so if you had an open surgery, it could be a different experience.) If I’m going to be honest here, it was difficult at first. So don’t get discouraged if it’s not what you think it will be right off the bat. Plus, I still had a wound that was very close by that was trying to heal up and forced us to take things even slower.